Day Eleven.
Todays Dare:
What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errands? Give a back rub or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says 'I cherish you' and do it with a smile.
Todays kind of rolls into yesterdays which is why I didnt post. Yesterday was to do something out of the ordinary for your spouse. Kinda the same really. So today, I fullfilled my dare, times ten. I cleaned the ENTIRE upstairs. Im talkin the kids' rooms, playroom, both bathrooms, our bedroom as well as about 4 loads of laundry (wash, dry AND put away!!) which, if you know me at all, you know I DONT do laundry. Justin ALWAYS does the laundry. I was hands and knees scrubbing the bathrooms too. It all needed to be done and I know he had it on his to do list, but I wanted him to just relax a bit and let me take care of it while he got to cluck out on some PS3. He always sends me off to the gym, or to go tanning or somewhere else to get some me time. I know he goes to work and thats his time out of the house, but its not like its fun! So this was one thing I could take off his plate for him, and it really made me feel good to do it! I want to start getting better about staying on top of it all because when he goes back on push in July, he wont be here to help as much as he is. I dont want him to think he is still going to be working 18 hours days AND doing all this housework. So thats today and pretty much yesterdays rolled into one :)
I love you, baby. Period.
♥Ashleigh
"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
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Thursday, February 18, 2010
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Day Four
Day Four: Love is Thoughtful
Todays Dare:
Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking if there is anything you could do for them.
What did you learn about youself or your spouse by doing this today? How could this become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?
Today was a great day! We did our dare all day and it just brings a smile to my face anytime I get the little message from Justin. He also finished yesterdays dare today and got me a little gift, which I loved. I definitely learned how the little gestures here and there really make the difference in how I feel everyday about myself and our progress. I think as long as we make the concious effort each day to remind eachother that we are here for eachother, not ourselves, we will both have less stress individually, which takes the weight off each others shoulders which in turn keeps our family happier. How can that be bad?? How can we NOT do that every day knowing the possitive effect it has on us? Everyday I am feeling closer to Justin as a result of opening my heart more to God. I still have questions, but I know in time they will be answered. I have been given too many blessings to not believe that someone is looking out for me.
♥Ashleigh
"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
Todays Dare:
Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking if there is anything you could do for them.
What did you learn about youself or your spouse by doing this today? How could this become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?
Today was a great day! We did our dare all day and it just brings a smile to my face anytime I get the little message from Justin. He also finished yesterdays dare today and got me a little gift, which I loved. I definitely learned how the little gestures here and there really make the difference in how I feel everyday about myself and our progress. I think as long as we make the concious effort each day to remind eachother that we are here for eachother, not ourselves, we will both have less stress individually, which takes the weight off each others shoulders which in turn keeps our family happier. How can that be bad?? How can we NOT do that every day knowing the possitive effect it has on us? Everyday I am feeling closer to Justin as a result of opening my heart more to God. I still have questions, but I know in time they will be answered. I have been given too many blessings to not believe that someone is looking out for me.
♥Ashleigh
"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Day Three: Love is not selfish.
Todays Dare:
Whatever you put you time, energy and money into will become more important to you. Its hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with retraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says "I was thinking of you today."
What did you choose to give you your spouse, what happened when you gave it?
♥Ashleigh
"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
Whatever you put you time, energy and money into will become more important to you. Its hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with retraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says "I was thinking of you today."
What did you choose to give you your spouse, what happened when you gave it?
♥Ashleigh
"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Day Two: Love is Kind
Todays Dare:
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
What discoveries did you make about love today? What specifically did you do in this dare? How did you show kindness?
This dare wasnt too hard. I did a few little things through out the day. Some may have been 'expected' but still. Like I cleaned the kitchen floor, which was getting bad with the dogs and snow and all. But the big one was after the kids were in bed, I knew Justins back had been hurting from shoveling all the snow. So I gave him a back massage, which I never do. I definitly discovered that showing love each day is totally in the little things. I dont need to out do myself everyday, as long as I am consistantly showing him he is always in my heart.
♥Ashleigh
"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
What discoveries did you make about love today? What specifically did you do in this dare? How did you show kindness?
This dare wasnt too hard. I did a few little things through out the day. Some may have been 'expected' but still. Like I cleaned the kitchen floor, which was getting bad with the dogs and snow and all. But the big one was after the kids were in bed, I knew Justins back had been hurting from shoveling all the snow. So I gave him a back massage, which I never do. I definitly discovered that showing love each day is totally in the little things. I dont need to out do myself everyday, as long as I am consistantly showing him he is always in my heart.
♥Ashleigh
"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
Monday, February 8, 2010
The Love Dare
Heres the short version. My married has been on a serious tight rope. There a lot more to it than that, but thats the general idea. I havent been putting in the same effort as Justin over the last few months. Actually, I havent really put in any effort at all. I knew we were struggling, barely treding water, and I was just waiting to sink instead of fighting to keep us above water. I had basically checked out. Things got really bad over this last weekend, and I finally opened my eyes to what I was about to loose. As of right now, we are back on track. However, if we have even a chance of survival, thats not enough. I found the book The Love Dare which is a 40 day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice uncontional love. We are on Day One, and I have decided to blog each day, and our progress. I may skip a day here and there, and I wont go back and make up for it, Ill just move on to whatever day we are on. I should normally do it at the end of each day so that I can write out what I journaled for the day. Feel free to take the dailey Dares with us, and you can write your own experience in a comment. We are also carrying this over to our kids, for the dares that are appropriate. So here is todays:
Day One: Love is Patient.
Todays Dare:
The first part if this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patients and say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. Itsa better to hold your tounge than to say something you'll regret.'
Did anything happen today to cause anger toward your mate? Were you tempted to think disapproving thoughts and to let them come out into words?
After the day is done, Ill come back and post about how it went :) Best of luck to anyone else who decides to accept the challenges! I highly reccomend you get the bookg as well. There are a few pages for each day that gives you an explination of the challenge before you get to it, and some things to keep in mind. At the end of 40 days, our marriage will be healed because of the hard work WE put in. This is great for marriages that are both healthy, and those on the rocks. I wish everyone the very best.
♥Ashleigh
"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
Day One: Love is Patient.
Todays Dare:
The first part if this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patients and say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. Itsa better to hold your tounge than to say something you'll regret.'
Did anything happen today to cause anger toward your mate? Were you tempted to think disapproving thoughts and to let them come out into words?
After the day is done, Ill come back and post about how it went :) Best of luck to anyone else who decides to accept the challenges! I highly reccomend you get the bookg as well. There are a few pages for each day that gives you an explination of the challenge before you get to it, and some things to keep in mind. At the end of 40 days, our marriage will be healed because of the hard work WE put in. This is great for marriages that are both healthy, and those on the rocks. I wish everyone the very best.
♥Ashleigh
"A mother's love for her child is like nothing else in the world. It knows no law, no pity, it dares all things and crushes down remorselessly all that stands in its path."
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